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An article in the Guardian today @Faith-and-Hope
and a reference to a resource:
Dr Sarah Davies, psychologist and author of Never Again – Moving on from Narcissistic Abuse and Other Toxic Relationships.
I like the 'never again' phrase, I hope that rings true for my life and yours. Corny 
I know that you're done for a lifetime @Faith-and-Hope , which I can totally relate to, but you will continue to live in the world and I don't want to see you be used, even by friends or people in life. There's so many pathologically self-focused con-artists out there, a girl has to be careful.
My take on the article is that covert narcissistic personality disorder, is just a person that has higher insight into their condition. They are covert because they know they have it, try their best to hide it, but it comes out in their relationships. I think more women would be covert.
I'm not sure how 'narcissistic abuse' is different to any other abuse. It is the methods an abuser uses that is the same in most people. I guess this is why people wonder if all abusive people are on the PD spectrum somewhere, like it is wired in....none of us have answers to these questions....
I just hope I can get to a place inside myself where I don't allow selfish people into my life, to use me. My history as a life-long child-carer doesn't help my cause......I feel I have no worth unless I am giving of myself. I have never felt wanted, just for me. I guess the cards were stacked against me. But I am trying not to be a prison of my past, I don't want them to win and I want authentic life experiences, instead of reacting from a place of trauma, Corny
You're such a loving Mumma-bear @Faith-and-Hope . I hope that your kids don't take you for granted, I am sure they don't. You are the matriarch of the family, the person they all look up to, if they can admit it, or their too young to see just yet.
Focus on your artworks, you sound really run off your feet. Disappear for a while, have a bath and zone out to a movie.
I can sense an energy shift coming for you in this 2nd half of 2021 @Faith-and-Hope . I'm not saying the legals/financials will all be finalised, and the whole thing over, & you never have to see him ever again, but I can feel new beginings and a new chapter of your life opening up. All driven by your strong conviction & integrity from day dot that you won't stand for this. A definite energy shift is on the way. It's just my gift that I know. I am gifted in such matters.
Cuddle coma's.
https://twitter.com/mydogiscutest/status/1415370406576459776
Corny
I am certain you will come out of this @Faith-and-Hope . I am that confident. You will be battled scarred and exhausted in a heart/soul weary way, forever changed, but I just know that your future is not how you envisioned it when you got married, but it will be yours!
He's dominated for too long, and you will discover different parts of yourself that have been smothered by his self focus and demanding personality. I hope he stays over seas, hugs, Corny
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