When things get tough here on the Forums

[PeppiPatty]

Dear @Maritza

What a good good message you give on personal writing. I remember when I found Sane Forums ; I just ...... Spilt...... Everything out ......... and felt awful esp. When I got no responses on highly personal stuff.
Than thanks to Sane forums and the moderators guidance
I went back to work
Started then stopped now renegotiating my exercise
back to Psychptherapist to discuss yet another huge huge problem.
But I think the biggest thing was that I was told that my
responses are worthwhile.
People asked questions
People, individuals suffering like me told me my responses are worthwhile.
Little things but I remember my moderator friend writing to me ..... His name @Hobbit .... He wrote that my story about my h and me is a love story
@CherryBomb writing that my advice is great because activities are attached ( sometimes)
@Shimmer pressing like on a comment.
@NikNik is always floating around.

And when I write I'm a chocolate lover, me at almost 50 years old.... I don't get crushed by negative comments.

Mum ... Yesterday's compliment on how I look : ahhhh. ... Your wearing clothes that fit you. You were wearing clothes all baggy and floating. And your hair looks good. Now go home and have a relaxing day. Clean your house and read a book.
I'm not saying that's a bad compliment but this is what I get. Here, women are asking me how I am today. Men like @Jacques or @WombatBoots tell me that they like my name change.

That's what o think about personal stuff.
Keep on keep on

And I'm getting good responses here.



Can you, can others reflect on positive vs negative responding ?
Well we wouldn't be giggling over @chookmojo 'children' chickens hey

I think that what you write to be honest ..... What I remember is that you have long blond hair and your childhood and your first supports.
So I remember that and....... Can you write what positives you have shown via your writing since you first began ?
You actually Write
You practically never left your home and slept all day
Didn't you begin a thread about how to leave your home to go to the Doctors?




My h

[PeppiPatty]

Sorry my silly computer sent that.
So can you reflect on positives vs neg on revealing posts.
We know we or our families arent going down in history for all our superstar achievements ..and when they do you will probably end rich enough to have hired a sneaky professional computer story changer to come to Sane Forums and pretend to be a cleaner while sneakily changing your stories around and change your name to Lorraine. No offence given ........

Xx

[PeppiPatty]

No offence given to anyone called Lorraine

[MoonGal]

@CherryBomb re "Post-Regret" - yep, I just about regret saying everything I have said. I have only asked for one of my posts to be removed, and I was encouraged to leave it as it may have been helpful for other people and so I did have it reinstated, and am glad I did.

I skitter away into fright, or walk fearless where angels fear to tread. This is just part of the POLARITY of me, is that bipolar or is that just the way we are? Somedays strong, clear and fearless, somedays fragile, frailing and fearful. I bounce wildliy between the two.

Bit by bit across the forums  have revealed already in just a few weeks some very personal information - but I do it in a spirit of sharing 'experience, strength and hope'.

[Former-Member]

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[Appleblossom]

I do feel exposed  ... but for some reason I have decided its my best option

I used to agonise and write and rewrite and leave notes for myself about what might be a good idea to say ... and in the past none of my care or concern seemed to manifest in good relations.  Today I was relaxed and showed a some of my poems which were well received ... so still hoping that things can change.

Anger is an IMPORTANT topic I am glad that @Former-Member has raised it.

I believe it could work if anger is admitted and it is made clear it is not directed personally and the forum is not used as a an indiscriminate venting place ...

Not sure of the best approach I am very interested in others opinions about it.

I try with good intentions and hope.

[Former-Member]

I can't see any problem with a venting thread so long as there are guidelines around it like there are for everywhere anyway 🙂 as appleblossoms said already shouldn't be about the forums or any individual person here and anonymity is maintained etc.
off topic I wonder if anger or dealing with strong emotions would be able to be a topic Tuesday subject? @CherryBomb @NikNik
Back on topic... I have had post post stress lol but usually because I think I've shared something too personal - however I think it's been good for me too 🙂
Lj

[PeppiPatty]

Dear @Suess

@Former-Member @Appleblossom @MoonGal

Im going to swim against the current and ..... Ask if you can see my point of view.

I think that Sane Forums promotes compassion and seeing things on like a

Present
Compassionate
Caring
Non judgemental way

I'm mindful of where you are all coming from but since been researching my writings .... I've noticed the ...... Nasty cruelty that others write: not caring of others feelings.
My objective
Objective meaning ; 'non' No nasty

( Collins English Dictionary )
Feelings is that this forum shows us ways of dealing with situations in new ways.
Not old.
It's very difficult though to keep this new feeling. My h : I'm a fulltime carer and having a well deserved break first for 5 months and I'm feeling guilty !

Anyway this is my input to @Suess suggestion to different buttons. Ide say : write a note to a moderator:
Do what @chookmojo suggests and say I'm not clear on what your describing .......
Think good .......

Anne

[PeppiPatty]

Ps ; I know my last few messages are not clear and I apologise.
My meds are everywhere
But they are getting sorted out
My h has not been in a good place
Arlo has had problems with his eyes
There is drama where I live
Which I've been writing letters to push change ( at last, good things are happening for someone which is very very good)

Some fantastic things have happened as well.
I was babysitting 2 little children but it got too difficult and what i did has been taken over by the right person.

[Former-Member]

Hugs @PeppiPatty
You're amazing with everything you manage! Am glad you are getting a well deserved break 🙂

I'm not sure about the block buttons either but do like the idea of a rant/vent thread that is like the worry room, let it out and walk away. Not something necessarily for others to comment on

Xx
Lj