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[Former-Member]

This is Tenet IV in a series of VI by Brad Hoefs

My disorder can lead me to feel hopeless. Therefore, I choose to believe, regardless of my feelings, that there is help and hope for my physical, emotional, psychological and spiritual well-being.

At times I also feel hopeless, letting my loved one’s actions and recovery define my happiness. Therefore, I choose to live with healthy emotional boundaries, and I choose my own joy despite the ups and downs of my loved one.

Together we remind each other that our hope and joy come from the Lord. He alone is able to fulfill our needs in every aspect of our lives.

“For I know the plans I have for you, declares the LORD, plans to prosper you and not to harm you, plans to give you hope and a future.”

Jeremiah 29:11 (NIV)

[Former-Member]

This is Tenet V of VI by Brad Hoefs

Those with LE: While medicine is a key component in my recovery, it is not the only answer. Therefore, I choose to explore new ways of thinking and acting in my relationships and daily living.

Caregiver: I, too, have been part of the cycle of dysfunctional living, either thinking I had all the answers or thinking the problem didn’t belong to me. Therefore, I choose to submit myself to learning new behaviors and taking responsibility for my own healthy, balanced living.

Together we choose freedom over suffering, and joy in living through self-knowledge in action.

“We demolish arguments and every pretension that sets itself up against the knowledge of God and we take captive every thought to make it obedient to Christ.”
2 Corinthians 10:5

[Shaz51]

“Therefore, encourage one another and build each other up.”
1 Thessalonians 5:11 (NIV)

everyday @Former-Member 

and we need wncouragement too xxx

[Former-Member]

@Shaz51

[Adge]

A Prayer for B, such a lovely Lady (80).

I've known her since I was a child.

She had a sudden heart attack, & has passed away - she was healthy, had no heart condition.

Her husband & her family will miss her dearly.

Mr B, B's husband has the same name as myself - I was actually named after him.

We will miss you B.

God love you & comfort you in peace.

Adge

[Adge]

[Determined]

@Adge  🙏  🌹

[Former-Member]

This is Tenet VI and the last of the VI by Brad Hoefs.

Those with LE: At times I have allowed myself to become a victim, “defined” by my disorder. Therefore I choose to overcome and live in hope and joy, in spite of my disorder.

Carer: At times, I have viewed myself as a victim of my loved one’s behavior and disorder, living in resentment, anger, unforgiveness, or self pity. Therefore, I choose to separate the disorder from the person I love, forgive and let go of the past, and live as a contributor to successful recovery.

Together, we share in each other’s victories and celebrate the whole person.

For God has not given us a spirit of fear, but of power and love and a sound mind.”
2 Timothy 1:7

[Former-Member]

Hi @Former-Member  -  I was reflecting on my breakdowns, the things I've done and how being suicidal impacts everyone. I once was a well known gospel singer, untill my suppressed childhood trauma came back in a movie and depression came  (think that's all it was) . Seeking help didn't work so I went to the country and fell into the preditory arms of Mr Wrong, who stalled me for the next 30yrs, giving me two children he didn't want then using them as pawns in a custody battle, until the youngest died suddenly, which seemed to take what's left of me and oh God, has my sin sinreally been that bad to inflict a lifetime of fighting, only to be knocked down over and over, and lose family and friends and honour and respect. I don't do drugs,vhave any criminal convictions. I was a nurse, even saved several lives along the way, waiting for the doctor but especially during outback nursing. I raised two beautiful well behaved children, one whose done uni and well respected among his peers and high paid specialised work. He's ashamed of my struggle, and his dad, so naturally he's better off keeping that distance his work demands. I miss him but don't want to burden (or be needy as he once said) and push him away more. But I'm alone, just me and God, which sadly my faith can't seem to make enough. Why has God allowed so much suffering? How can this pittyful specimen, HIS CHILD, bring any glory to his kingdom? I've messed up, but I've also  tried so very. hard, for so long. Why doesn't he just take me home. I don't need to be here. Why? I could say I'm being punished but that doesn't computer either. Some say I bring it on myself, but much of what's happened was out of my control (like family court ordering me to allow unsupervised access or give him custody, for one example). I can't make sense of it. I know Prov5:3 tells me not to lean on my own understanding, and I do every day. Over and over. Why couldn't God stop the crap. I'm so ashamed. Maybe that's where he wants me, totally dependent on the cross. And so it all seems over. Why doesn't He take us home when we no longer contribute. I donno, just venting I guess. Don't wanna burden you. But How does one keep picking themself up?  I got my storage unit empty and visited my girls grave and(where I just wanna curl up and die), and i've actually seen more of my son (positively) in the 3months back in Qld. So 3 big goals done. Msybe Sorryi just expect too much from life. Any comments welcome but no pressure. Thanks for listening.

[Otter]

Hi there @Former-Member ,

I can see there is a lot on your mind at the moment, and much of it is feeling hard to sit with. It sounds like you are grappling with some thoughts of SI today which can be particularly difficult to navigate, so just sending out a reminder right now that you are not alone in this. Just wondering if you could get in touch with Lifeline or SCBS, or a preferred crisis line to speak with someone for some instantaneous support if you'd like tonight? It’s important you are able to stay safe, and so if you need urgent support please do phone 000.

Wishing you the best from myself and the whole community,

Otter