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[QuietRefuge]

Hello Everyone, I am new to this site and forums in general. I've joined because nine years of a relationship with a person with Paranoid Personality Disorder is taking its toll on me. I am hoping you may be able to share with me how to create an environment in which his challenging times are less frequent (over the last three years they are becoming more frequent with new, surprising ways he responds to the environment and social interactions). I am also hoping to learn new ways of helping him out of these challenging times; hopefully shortening the duration and intensity of those episodes. I am also hoping to start feeling alive again. I wish you all a peaceful week and thank you in advance for any guidance you can offer.

[tacocat]

Hey @QuietRefuge 

Just wanted to send you a quick welcome message... Hi from all of us at the forums!

You're absolutely at the right place, and I'm sure our members will be keen to offer you some great advice in the days to come.

See you around the forums 🙂

[Glisten]

@QuietRefuge I have no advice. I wish you peace, comfort and happiness.

Your needs are very important to all of us here in Forumland.

We are here for you.

G

[Shaz51]

good afternoon

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Hope you day is going ok 

We had a big stressful day in the city yesterday so today is a recovery day 

not doing much but pottering around the house 

what self care do you like doing ?

[MJG017]

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@Shaz51 wrote:

what self care do you like doing ?

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I like to work on building models using my 3D printer.  Mainly printing things from shows I loved as a kid.  It's fun and makes me feel young again.

As for my day... not great unfortunately.  I just got back from om oncology psychology appointment where I was discharge because they said they didn't feel it was helping me because my little assessment tests at the start of each session weren't improving.  She then told me she feels bad having me come in and not being able to help.  So I guess I shouldn't make her feel bad so I agreed to not making any more appointments.  Bye Bye professional support.  

I've actually had a great week though.  I was interviewed for an article in the local paper on Tuesday morning and even had a photographer come around later that day.  I got to be a model for half an hour 🙂  A new experience.  So hopefully the article is in the paper tomorrow.  It wasn't in todays.

[Shaz51]

Hello and welcome 

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My name is @Shaz51 

I am 60 😁

my husband and his 4 children have ADHD and ASD 

I have kidney disease stage 4 and Diabetes 

I am also the Birthday girl on the forum , so if you want me to say happy birthday on your birthday let me know , but you don`t have too xxx

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[Shaz51]

like to work on building models using my 3D printer.--- thanks sounds very interesting @MJG017 😍

She then told me she feels bad having me come in and not being able to help.--- @MJG017 , this is actually what happened to my mr shaz 

he agrees but feels not good like you  

 I got to be a model for half an hour -- ohhh wow , how exciting my friend xx

[Ru-bee]

Hi there @QuietRefuge this is a great goal for the forums. I wonder if you might feel comfortable creating a new thread where you're able to discuss this a little more so that there can be a dedicated space where members can support you in this?

If starting a thread sounds a little daunting you can always check out this handy guide 

Hello to you @Shaz51 and @MJG017 when I first read "good afternoon" I thought it was a mistake, but no, that's right! The morning flew by today.

That's a tricky situation @MJG017 I can understand the professional ethics of not wanting to continue on when it doesn't appear to be helpful, but it sounds like this came as a bit of a surprise, and as you mentioned, left you feeling like you've lost your professional supports. Are you interested in looking into any different/new supports, or will you give it some time?

In terms of self-care my go-to is to get outdoors and go for a walk on the days when I really need a pick-me-up. I'm currently trying to get a good daily self-care routine going where I meditate and I exercise, but I'm not strict about how long or how intense either of these are. Today I could only fit in a 5 min meditation, and some days my exercise is just taking 5-10 minutes to stretch before bed 😊 

[Glisten]

@Shaz51 asking myself if I am putting my needs first?

The simplest solution is often the best.

I have nothing to be ashamed of.

I have a right to exist and be happy.

G

[Shaz51]

Today I could only fit in a 5 min meditation, and some days my exercise is just taking 5-10 minutes to stretch before bed --- this is great @Ru-bee 😍

been trying to do 5 to 10 minutes on the exercise bike but did none yesterday because we had to go to the city 

My husband has lost all his support like @MJG017 

I have a right to exist and be happy.---- we all do my @Glisten 😍