@TAB now that he's living with stepmonster I won't be able to care for him because she despises me. Her daughter suggested I care for the both of them in independent living (I suspect so she'd get more money when the old cow carks it) and stepmonster said there was no way she would have me anywhere near her.

I'm not fazed anymore, it wasn't meant to be and I've accepted that. Just the stress of finding a full time job now.