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@BlueBay wrote:
I’m so angry because hubby is home. And it really affects my routine. He is just sitting around hugging and puffing.
Some bills came today and they were overdue. So he’s complaining that they are overdue. But if we don’t hsve the money to pay them there’s not much I can do.
Sometimes I wish I was on my own.
No one telling me what to do or complaining or whinging.
Im sorry you have so much on your plate and I’m carrying on.
I should just go.
Hi @BlueBay
I haven't been writing for a few days - I have a bit of a cold and this is rare for me - and I have been tired and not feeling at all useful - but I have just read how bad you feel with Huffnpuff huffing and puffing and what the %$*##* he thinks will happen with him ranting at you. It's not your fault that bills are unpaid - ah - I would walk out and have a good cry somewhere - you have the right to do that - it's a pity you felt the need to sh - it would have been better to have a cry or to let Huffnpuff know how it bothers you that he rants about these bills - I hear you - I have lived through times of financial contraint too and had a lazy husband disappearing into a morose silence for reasons I never heard anything about.
Actually - I am glad to hear you say you wish you were on your own with no one telling you what to do or complaining or whinging. You seem to understand the financial situation - it seems to me you are in control of your household expenses and things are stretched about as far as they can go - and Huffnpuff isn't pulling his weight about it - and doesn't want to - so I think I would be saying I didn't want to hear about it until he started to be part of the solution and not just whining - whining - and getting angry cause you are doing your best and no one can do more than their best
I know it's hard for you to make decisions but you have made some recently and learning it's worth it - but having Huffnpuff gripe at your about his decisions is not something you need to deal with - after all - if he picks a pair of shoes he will either like them or not and if they are not a good purchase he can't blame you -
It's so easy to be on the outside of someone else's problems and make suggestions but I will because it gives you an idea - you do have choices - and putting up with the situation is a choice too and it must be hard having so many people in the house. I grew up in a crowded house - totally understand the pressure
Problems are complicated but solutions are not - Dr Phil just said that today - it's finding the solution I guess
Care heaps - take time for yourself and do the best to maintain your routines - and that is easier said than done
Dec
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